i'm sorry, i suck!
i'm sorry, i suck!
my life is crazy and honestly this is going to be about home stuff edition
spring has sprung, and I have succumbed to chaos
I normally draft these so they come out by Monday mornings, but my life has been freaking crazy the last month, so I dropped the ball. Sorry about that. My new job has me working fairly hard and I’m trying to stay organized. Also, lowkey: my partner and I’s apartment will be featured in a newspaper (hopefully) fairly soon, so I’ve been dealing with a lot of home issues. So, actually— this is me writing a newsletter based off the things that I have wanted, maybe purchased, but these might be helpful depending on if you’re vaccinated and how willing you are to interact with strangers. I guess to that note, it’s ARIES SZN, SWEATY CROUTONS! Time for the beginning… of WAR! CLEANING! IDK ALL THE THINGS! It’s our astrological and witchy New Year, so let chaos reign!!!!
Soundtrack for this newsletter:
also I have some beta offerings…
So, I brought this up on my twitter, but when I open my books in April for May-June, I am offering some beta trials of perfumancy and intuitive personal styling (at a distance!) It just feels natural for me to ease into, and these will be offered at a discounted rate depending on time and effort put into it. I will need tester feedback for perfumancy, which will be my first offering to test. Eventually, I would very much like to make my own scents, but that’ll come after I eventually take scent classes. If you’re interested in either of these offerings, please reply to this email or contact me!
I want to acknowledge before sending you these suggestions, that I come from a place of privilege. So never feel pressured to listen to a word I say if it doesn’t resonate with you, because, y’know, capitalism, lived experience, etc. That also being said, as a person of colour, specifically a first-generation Filipinx American— I have to denounce anti-Asian attacks, as well as misogynistic attacks. I want to address that before I go onto the rest of the newsletter because I’m still horrified at the way things went down (and have addressed it on social media.) This is a space where I can acknowledge what happened, but I am tired of doing the work. Please do it yourself, there are more resources around.
onto… the goodz
ask for help, sweaty croutons!
If you’re within the means for doing this and comfortable with a stranger entering your home— book the help. Honestly? Now that I’m working full-time, and my partner also works full-time, we’ve made sure that we save extra on the side for help or else we’d fall to the wayside. All of these options, should you not feel comfortable and still want to explore these types of services, are usually amenable to offering online consultations too, and usually do so at a more affordable rate. That being said, now that we’re settled back into a routine (or trying to, at least) we’re realising that we want to invest that money back into getting help for ourselves.
for your mental health
Over the years, therapy has proven to be a crucial healing tool. Looking back, I wish I could have found someone who covered different parts of my identity, but at least she is a therapist who practices cultural humility. That being said, if you’ve been affected by the slew of racist attacks on Asian elders and women, and have been seeking someone to talk to— there are directories of therapists who are APISAA. Like… well, the APISAA Directory. Or NAAPIMHA’s directory. There’s also Inclusive Therapists. Or, if you’re QTBIPOC, the NQTTCN.
for your humble abode
Organization is a bitch and the bane of my existence (I have ADHD.) My partner is inclined towards cleanliness, but both of us don’t have the energy to figure out how to fix things and create systems (you’ll find this to be a buzzword in personal organizer businesses) that work for us. That’s why, in conjunction with the therapist that I have, I also want to hire someone to help me get my shit together and do it with an open mind. I’m going to be real with you and say that I wish I could recommend a BIPOC organizer to work with— but I know that I need someone in person, and for some reason, yt ladies seem to have the lock on the market so… I’m sorry— but NAPO has a directory of genuinely talented Karens to help you tidy your home.
for your ears
I hate that I succumbed to this. And not just because Tidal’s majority shares were bought out by my partner’s boss. But… I genuinely am angry at how fucking good the sound quality is. Because now I have to pay for another streaming music service. I mean, yes I probably could build a wonderful record collection, speaker system, and the best record player a babe like me could find— but also, I’m just never at home to enjoy it. So uh, yeah. Treat yourself to a good pair of headphones, good speakers, and do what I said. Or you can sign up for TIDAL with my referral link, the quality is actually good and honestly, it’s a 60 day free trial and this post isn’t sponsored or anything but I think I get money if you sign up with my referral link. I actually have no clue what I agreed to when I clicked the referral program. Can you all tell I’m high?
Probably.
This was longer than I anticipated. I am so sorry this came late. My job, again, and the state of the country has me going haywire. Updates on booking as well as other stuff comes next issue. Which I can’t necessarily promise will be timely, but I will try. I will very much try.
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